Gina Heslop
A 27-year-old black African woman living in Germany is invited to her elderly colleague’s daughter’s wedding. Unaware of the cultural nuances, she seeks dress code guidance but receives none, opting for a vibrant green traditional outfit from her home country.
At the wedding, her attire causes a stir, with comments and compliments. Unbeknownst to her, it fuels tension as the mother of the bride deems it extravagant and attention-stealing.
Returning to the office, the woman senses an unusual atmosphere. Whispers circulate, and colleagues appear reserved. It’s revealed that the mother of the bride is furious about her outfit, deeming it inappropriate and causing discomfort among guests.
Attempting resolution, the woman faces refusal when approaching the mother of the bride. She defends herself, explaining she followed given guidance and had no intention of overshadowing the bride, citing cultural differences in celebrating weddings.
Despite her efforts, the woman faces criticism and racially coded remarks. She maintains her dignity but acknowledges the need for more research on dress code expectations.
We should have responsibility for clear communication in cross-cultural situations. Was the woman wrong for inadvertently overshadowing the bride, or should her elderly colleague have been clearer about the dress code?
